What I knew THEN and NOW

-a decade of self-reflection-

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If a magic portal suddenly appears at your doorstep taking you back in time. What would you tell yourself? Would you change things differently?

Since turning 26 years old this year, I often find myself lost in the passage of time. It’s as if I’ve been living a life on fast forward. Sometimes it’s easy to go through life focusing on filling that void that we forget to appreciate the moment and how far we’ve come. Thinking about the past, the memories, the hardships, the joys, and the goodbyes. I started reflecting on what I know now and what I knew 10 years ago. When I was 16, I’ve always imagined that life is a dichotomy. Life turns out, is not that simple.

Below are list of things that I’ve come across and experienced in life, the differences between knowing then and knowing now:


  • Then

Friendship last forever. If not, then It wasn’t real in the first place.

  • Now

Not all friendships last forever, but that doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. Friendship is not based on time but based on intimacy. Sometimes friendship only last for a period of time. We all have paths to take, some people change a path of direction and lose touch. People come and go in our lives and gives us a piece of memory. We just have to appreciate the moment spent with them. If we’re lucky enough, we might find someone whom we keep for the rest of our lives.


  • Then

Being young and healthy means we’re immune to all illnesses, so put your body into good use.

  • Now

Like everything else in life, each has an expiration date. Being young, we tend to take our bodies for granted believing that it can handle anything you throw at it. Our health is fragile, and if we don’t take care of it, we might have to pay the price.

As we grow older, we realise that our body can only go through so much than before.

“Ageing is nothing but a process of continuous losses”

So appreciate your body, feed it, pamper it, and don’t take it for granted.


  • Then

More is better, chase after it. Nothing else matters.

  • Now

Money is essential for survival. We all have to pay our bills, nobody is doing that for us. But in order to live life with happiness, we need to be honest with ourselves and consider what’s important. Understand the boundaries between having ENOUGH and having MORE. Money is a never ending game. As humans, greed and dissatisfaction are in our nature.

Life isn’t about the quantity but the quality of life. Living life deeply rather than broadly”


  • Then

Chase your passion, and work hard to achieve it, If you believe, then it will come true.

  • Now

Chasing our passion is a noble pursuit, but sometimes in life, we don’t get to live the life we’ve always dreamt and that’s ok. Some people are lucky enough and some people aren’t. Life is about adapting, the world takes off on a high speed chase and we have to keep up with it.

“If we can’t live the life we’ve dreamt then we can live a life worth bearing because life is not a fantasy”

We are all interlinked with each other like an invisible thread. In order for the world to achieve normality, each person has a role to partake in.


  • Then

Love is all about the passion, the grand gestures, and the intensity. It’s seeing a person for the first time and the heart skips a beat.It’s that feeling of butterflies in our stomach when we’re with someone. It’s chasing someone at the airport, telling them to stay with us. It’s about losing ourselves for the benefit of the other.

“Love is only unique to the subject of romance”

  • Now

Still figuring out


If there’s one thing that I’ve learned in life, it’s that everything is “EPHEMERAL”. It’s where love and beauty awaits.

“Have you ever wondered why there’s so much beauty in sunrise and sunset? because love and beauty lies in separation”

So live deeply and passionately. Love yourself, the people, and the world while you still can.




BSc in Civil/Structural Engineering — A kid in his 20’s finding a sense to this world and everything in between.

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BSc in Civil/Structural Engineering — A kid in his 20’s finding a sense to this world and everything in between.

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